To Do or Not To Do?

To Do or Not To Do

Many people say that "All things happen for a reason," but you may feel different especially when you are not as happy as you see others. Well to change that mind set of not being as joyful as other you should follow some tips for achieve what you long for.

People often tend to see things through the looking glass in a sense of the fantasizing about what others have instead of what they can gain by themselves. If you’re thinking about what other people have then you are not deciding on what you should have for your own happiness. In an article on Essence.com I found ways to gain the love life you truly want:

•   Don't Look for Love

Instead of looking for what doesn't necessarily needs to be found, be patient and see what blows your way.

•  Get Out There

Don't wait around for time to pass you by get out there, make it known that you’re alive, and willing to see what's to come your way.

•  Embrace Disappointment

If you find someone that you think is right but find out that they are not what you thought don't hold on to what is not there.

•  What You See If What You Get

You may dream of the "Perfect" man but truth is he is not real so you need to except that you cannot change the man to fit your image. Except it and Move on to better things.

•     Something New

As you let go of something old, you often expect something new but if you’re picking the wrong type of people then how can you move on to someone new? Breaking bad habits are hard to kick unless you’re committed to moving forward so doesn’t look back on the bad fruit look at the garden full of fresh and new flavors.

http://www.essence.com/relationships/advice/5_tips_for_finding_love.php

Relationships: Make it or Break it ♥

Relationships: Make it or Break it ♥

There are much type of love relationships in this world for every type of person it just depends on what you’re into. Many relationships have to start somewhere, they can either start from friendship or just jumping into it, it all depends on what you see as being a potential relationship.

Throughout the world people have been known to date or marry their best friends from high school, childhood, college, or just randomly. Not everyone starts out from being friends they might just be spontaneous and jump into it, a lot of times that doesn't work out unless your committed and working towards it. If you start out as friends and grow towards a relationship then you may be lucky to find your spouse, who knows? I have seen and heard of many people growing up together and making their relationships grow into marriage; if you have Ms.Persen as a teacher you might have heard her mention her love story between her husband & herself. They started out friends in high-school then dated then they made it official, many girls dream about one day gaining the "fairy tale ending" but they never think about the work for getting to that point.

Have you ever felt like you were in love with someone (even if you guys were just 'talking?’?) You thought they were the love of your life, would do anything for them, and be with them forever then get your heart broken? Well that's called lust not love. Many girls these days think they are in love when really they have no idea what that is or what it means to work for and in a relationship, after they have been through the heart ache they start to doubt themselves stating things like "I'm not good enough" or "I'm never going to find happiness" but who says that love and happiness will never come?

Celebrity love expert Patti Stanger went on Oprah to talk about her tips to finding love she has said there are eleven tips and they are:

1. Thou Shall Return Calls in a Timely Manner

2. Thou Shall Honor Your Commitments

3. Thou Shall Let the Man Take the Lead

4. Thou Shall Leave History in the Past

5. Thou Shall Be Focused and Positive

6. Thou Shall Not Drink Too Much

7. Thou shall not be a Gold Digger

8. Thou Shall Act Like a Lady

9. Thou Shall Show Sincere Appreciation and Interest

10. Thou Shall Not Give Nookie on the First Date

11. Thou Shall Break the Text Habit

(http://www.oprah.com/packages/finding-and-keeping-the-love-of-your-life.html)

- "Life is not about a party. There are going to be ups and downs and trouble and things are going to happen that are not great. How do you ride that road so to speak, that bumpy road, if you don’t have a partner in life? If you just think life’s a party, you’re going to end up being the last one at the party to leave." ♥ - Patti Stanger  

(http://www.bravotv.com/the-millionaire-matchmaker/classic-patti-zingers)

Steps and Symptoms ?

“I am excessively slothful, and wonderfully industrious--by fits. There are epochs when any kind of mental exercise is torture, and when nothing yields me pleasure but the solitary communion with the ‘mountains & the woods’--the ‘altars’ of Byron. I have thus rambled and dreamed away whole months, and awake, at last, to a sort of mania for composition. Then I scribble all day, and read all night, so long as the disease endures.”
Edgar Allen Poe




 “There is a particular kind of pain, elation, loneliness, and terror involved in this kind of madness. When you’re high it’s tremendous. The ideas and feelings are fast and frequent like shooting stars….But, somewhere, this changes. The fast ideas are far too fast, and there are far too many; overwhelming confusion replaces clarity. Everything previously moving with the grain is now against--you are irritable, angry, frightened, uncontrollable….It will never end, for madness carves its own reality.”

Kay Redfield Jamison

 “I roll on like a ball, with this exception, that contrary to the usual laws of motion I have no friction to contend with in my mind, and of course have some difficulty in stopping myself when there is nothing else to stop me…I am almost sick and giddy with the quantity of things in my head--trains of thought beginning and branching to infinity, crossing each other, and all tempting and wanting to be worked out.”

John Ruskin

                Did you know that Bipolar disorder effects people between 15-25 years old? Have you ever know someone who seem to have a sudden change in their mood or emotions? Well many do not know about what really causes this way of reacting because they have never experienced it. Bipolar disorder is know as manic depression and causes people to have stages of out rage or even depression, there are three types of stages that people can reach: major depression, hypomania, and cyclothymia.

The first stage (which is known to be the more powerful) is major depression this is when changes in mood occur and can last for a long period of time. Many clinical experts say that this can be cause by didn’t sources such as:

¨       Alcohol or drug abuse

¨       Life events or situations, such as: Breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, failing a class, illness or death in the family, or parents divorcing (for adolescents)

¨       Childhood events, such as abuse or neglect

¨       Divorce, death of a friend or relative, or loss of a job (for adults)

¨       Social isolation (common in the elderly)

¨       Medical conditions such as hypothyroidism (underactive thyroid), medications (such as sedatives and high blood pressure medications), cancer, major illness, or prolonged pain

¨       Sleeping problems

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001941

If people can find a way to control them, then they might have a chance of helping them get through life without the added stress of feeling sad, angry, or even lonely.

The second stage of having bipolar disorder is known as hypomania  which can have less intense sypmtoms then the manic stage:

¨       Daily low mood

¨       Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions

¨       Eating disturbances

¨       Loss of appetite and weight loss

¨       Overeating and weight gain

¨       Fatigue or listlessness

¨       Feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness and/or guilt

¨       Loss of self-esteem

¨       Persistent sadness

¨       Persistent thoughts of death

¨       Sleep disturbances

¨       Excessive sleepiness

¨       Inability to sleep

¨       Suicidal thoughts

¨       Withdrawal from activities that were once enjoyed

¨       Withdrawal from friends

The last step of the spectrum is cyclothymia. This stage is the least intense stage of them all causing side effects:

¨       Episodes of hypomania (see: Bipolar disorder) and mild depression occur for at least 2 years (1 or more years in children and adolescents)

¨       Mood swings are less severe than in bipolar disorder, major depression, or mania

¨       Symptoms are persistent, with no more than 2 symptom-free months in a row

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0002517

Bipolar or Stress?

Bipolar Disorder or Just Stressed?

Have you ever felt as if you were riding a rollercoaster though life? Going through the ups and downs not only with the long days but also the waves of emotions that you and others face? Well many people especially teenagers have states or times where they start to get over whelmed with the pressures of life, but many cannot figure out if they are struggling because of stress or if they are truly experiencing a disorder known as “bipolar disorder?”

 Through my life I can honestly say that I am unsure that I am just facing stress, my whole life I have been dealing with many emotions such as anger, sadness, and happiness but I have never felt as if I was just dealing with the simple facts of life and growing up.  Bipolar disorder is classified as an treatable illness it causes many mood swings and can effect anyone,  I am one of those people that are effected by this (well so I assume) because I feel like I do not get over my moods as well as other and I face more challenging days than people who are not affected it. If you feel the same way then you may be dealing with it also.